Sunday, March 14, 2010

Getting back into the writing mood...

...and posted this on my Fetlife profile. (If you're not on Fetlife, and you're a kinkster or a fetishist, you should be! Join! It's an awesome site.)

Updating with a brief word about what "protecting" means to me. It means:

  • If I am protecting someone, you come to talk to me before playing with them. They may approach you about play first, but they'll mention this rule to you. You come to me before asking them about play. This goes especially for tranceplay. I am very likely to say yes - far more likely than not! - but if they have me listed as a protector there's a reason for it. Usually it's for their own security. Respect that.

  • If I am protecting you and you want to play with someone, talk to me about it. I am almost certainly going to say yes, but I reserve the right to monitor things closely... sometimes VERY closely. This goes especially for tranceplay.

  • If someone is listed as mine but I'm not protecting them, it means that they belong to me. It's a good idea to talk to me first. However, I trust those that are mine to know themselves very well and to always come home, so it's not a requirement by any means. I'd very likely say yes anyway! Protection means that they need to feel secure. If they're not protected, they ARE secure. If something happy happens spontaneously, hooray for happy things! :)

  • If someone is listed as being polyamorous with me, DO ask before sex, please. Again, chances are that I'll say yes! We need more happy in the world.

Also, I went to a play party last night! It was my first small-scale one, really, and I had a tremendous amount of fun. For one perspective on what happened, see sleepykitten99's post on the topic.

Finally... tomorrow is my last day at the day job. I am going to be available far more hours on the phone! This makes me happy. Starting Tuesday, if days or late nights work better for you, you are in luck! I cannot tell you how happy this makes me.

Tuesday really IS the first day of the rest of my life. :)


  1. I'm sooooo happy for you!!! *hugs*

  2. *Cheers you on all the way to the finish line* You can do it, Ru. We believe in you!

  3. I am SOOOOOOO happy you're done with the day job. Here is to the rest of your life! <3

  4. Congratulations on your new NiteFlirt endeavor! You appear to be writing a most exciting new Chapter in your Life and it promises to be such a good read.

    May it be even more deep, rich, and enlightening than you had ever imagined.